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Giving Yourself Permission to Be Okay

ID-100296502It’s okay to be Okay.

I guess what I mean by giving yourself permission to be okay, is that we don’t have to be perfect. It’s okay to NOT be perfect.

Salvador Dali said, “Have no fear of perfection, you’ll never reach it.” Does that thought make you cringe or make you sigh in relief?

We can get so caught up in our Too-much-to-do lists, with a keen sense of Superwoman(man)-I-have-to-do-it-all syndrome that perfection becomes the goal. I am extremely guilty of the Superwoman complex. Maybe some of you out there can relate.

So, this is approximately how it has gone for me lately: I want to be a writer, more than I can put into words (pun intended.) So, I, of course, have to participate in anything writing related, right? Enter every contest I can find, participate in as many critique groups as I can– in person and online, write a new story and edit the finished one, keep up with social media, and meanwhile stressing about all of the things that I’m not doing to better myself as a writer. The story is similar for my family life, our finances, and my relationship with God. And don’t even get me started on my disaster zone previously known as my house!

Is this what God intended for me, or for any of us? The answer is a huge resounding, NO! Jesus said in Matthew 11:

28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Amen! Thank you Lord, that I don’t have to be everything to everyone, and that I don’t have to be perfectly performing to 110% in every area of my life. Instead, God tells us in Psalm 46:

10 He says, “Be still, and know that I am God;
I will be exalted among the nations,
I will be exalted in the earth.”

Who is God? Who will be exalted? Mollie Joy Rushmeyer? No! God is God. And He will be exalted. What does this mean for me and my life, and for you in yours? That we don’t need to stress about all of this stuff, we don’t have to do it all, nor should we try. God has it covered. He’s taking care of us, even when we can’t see it.

Even when the laundry piles to the sky, and we’re elbow-deep in dishes and dirty diapers, feeling utterly invisible. He sees us. Even when our dreams seem, well, just dreams. Far away. He loves us and is working behind the scenes to bring us into the plans He has for us. Even when we feel as though we’ve failed in our relationships. He is there to give us another chance. Even when the To-do list is a mile long and we have no hope of reaching the end. He is there to help us. He is with us always, like a Father reaching for His child. Not sometimes. Always.

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And I guess my point is that, right now I am taking my own advice. I have been trying to do too much. Haven’t we all, at some point or another? I have stepped back from an online critique group that was totally stressing me out. (Yes, there really can be too much of a good thing.)

I give myself permission to not be Wonder Woman, or ‘fail’, if you will, at being her. And I invite you to do the same. With prayer, I think I’m able to see the priorities God has for my life. Because, let’s face it, when I try to do this ‘life thing’ on my own, I fail miserably. And not that ‘good’ kind of fail… but I digress. Maybe this is how God prunes away the unimportant, to help us focus on the important things that are a part of His will for our life. So, here’s to failing, and the God who loves us all no matter what.

Blessings to all.

Is there anything that God is asking you to prune away in order to bring you greater joy today? Let me know.

Love to hear from you!


Photos thanks to Nutdanai Apikhomboonwaroot and jesadaphorn via

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