Letting go of jealousy, so you can fulfill your purpose.
Okay, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but…
Unless we’re perfect, have nothing at all to improve about ourselves or our gifts and talents (please tell me if I ever say I don’t because that means I need a big ol’ piece of humble pie) or perceive ourselves as any of the above, then there are always going to be those out there that have more, do more, are more _________ than us.
Whew. That was hard to type, my friend. That was like showing you my ugly green monster in the closet. But we’ve probably all been there, right?
As writers, I think we are especially vulnerable to this monster called jealousy. As an aspiring published author, I wish this never happened, but sometimes I’ve looked at those multi-published authors with a covetous gleam in my beady little eyes. Even looking at unpublished authors with great platforms, tons of ‘Likes’ and followers can send a shiver of desperate want down my spine. And I can only imagine that once authors are published, there’s a different but equally intense barrage of hot button issues– sales records, critical acclaim, awards and nominations, reviews on Amazon and elsewhere, etc. The list is endless.
But I’m here to talk about another truth– unless we can let go of envy of others, we will never truly fulfill our own purpose or use our passions to the fullest.
As a Christian, I am certain this is Satan’s sneaky plan. He doesn’t come in a dramatic cloud of smoke and pitchforks. He weasels his way through the backdoor. Pouring doubt into our minds about our abilities and God’s purpose for us, anger over others’ supposed ‘better’ blessings, and paralyzing jealousy so that we’re so stuck on what the next guy/gal has, we forget to do what we’re meant to do.
I don’t have a magic fix for this, but here are some things I try to keep in mind when the green monster rears his hideous, fanged head:
- Remember that no matter who I’m looking at as ‘having it all’, they are just people like you and me. And they once were just like us– a person with a dream.
- Remember, we are loved– by many, and by a God who created us for just such a purpose. Now who will deny the God of the universe the purpose for our lives? No one. Nothing. It will just be in His time, not ours. Be patient.
- When we look at others with success, remember, they are not the enemy. We are all at different places in our journey, and that is not a basis to be angry with someone.
- Instead of letting it stop us from going forward, remember that we can learn from those that go before us. What did they do to get where they are? What things could we do in our own life to emulate that kind of work ethic, business plan, prayer life, connections with other like-minded people, etc.
- Pray. When our hearts are close to the Lord’s there’s no room in there for jealousy. Only joy and thankfulness for right where we are as well as a love and camaraderie for those Christian brother and sister writers out there. Pray for them too. For they are bringing the Lord’s hope to the world. They need our support, not our jealousy.
I’ll leave you with a bit of encouragement today:
Let’s keep fighting the good fight,
P.S. I want to share that this was a tough one to write. I feel like Jacob wrestling with God lately. And as my previous post suggested, My Unmasked Manifesto, with social media being what it is, it’s so easy to get caught up in thinking everyone else’s lives are perfect. But here I am, and I want to be authentic with all of you. Blessings to you all!
Willing to share?
What makes you jealous? How do you overcome it?
*Green monster photo courtesy of Victor Habbick via freedigitalphoto.net Btw, that image is burned into my eyelids! That lady is creepy!